Above Rubies Daily Encouragement Blogs
Through the weekly and daily devotionals you can be constantly encouraged in your great role of parenting, the highest career in the nation. You can also stay updated on what's happening with the Above Rubies ministry.
I trust you enjoyed a wonderful Thanksgiving dinner yesterday with your family. We were blessed again to gather together. Because it rained all day we couldn’t do our usual outside activities but the day was filled with laughter and fellowship, some leaving about 2.00 am. I was in be dwell before that!
The following are just a few of the things for which I am thankful.
T I thank God for TEACHING me His ways.
H I thank God for giving me my HUSBAND. Marriage becomes more and more beautiful with time.
A I thank God for ANOINTING me to be a mother. Is there any greater blessing, apart from our salvation, than to enjoy the blessings of children and grandchildren?
N I thank God for creating me to be a NURTURER and NOURISHER to my family and to others.
K I thank God for His KINDNESS to me.
F I thank God for my FAMILY, extended family, and those who consider themselves to be part of our family. Yesterday on Thanksgiving we were blessed to receive another greatgrandbaby into our family.
U I thank God for giving me UNDERSTANDING of His truth. My greatest delight is to receive revelation of God’s truth from His living Word.
L I am thankful for LIFE. I thank God for LOVING me enough to die for me and shed His precious blood for my sins. He not only redeemed me but dwells within me to give ABUNDANT LIFE. I don’t like to let a day go by without thanking Him for His great and unspeakable and eternal salvation.
May thankfulness fill our hearts every day of the year, even in the most difficult and darkest times.
Have a wonderful day,
Nancy Campbell
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We’ve been talking about holy marriage and holy mothering. Did you know that God wants your home to be holy too? Wow, that’s a huge undertaking, isn’t it? Especially when our homes are filled with sinners. We are sinners and our children are sinners. Even though we are sinners saved by grace, we are still prone to sin. But as we invite God to come and dwell in our live and our homes, He woos us to holiness.
Hebrews 9:1 tells us: “Then verily the first covenant had also ordinances of divine service, and a worldly sanctuary.” That’s King James language, not always easy to understand if you are not used to it.
Let’s read it in the J. B. Phillips’ translation: “. . . and it had a sanctuary, a holy place in this world for the eternal God.” Don’t you love those words? Let’s read them again: “A HOLY PLACE IN THIS WORLD FOR THE ETERNAL GOD.”
Back in those days, God dwelt in the midst of His people, Israel. God dwelt in His Shekinah glory in the Holy of Holies in the tabernacle, and later the temple. Today, God does not live in a temple in Jerusalem, but He still wants a dwelling place on earth. He now comes to dwell in our hearts, and He also wants to dwell in our homes (1 Corinthians 6:19, 20 and 2 Corinthians 6:16).
The eternal God desires your home to be a holy place for Him on this earth. Can you seek to make your home a holy place for Him?
God wants every material thing in our homes to be anointed with His presence. Even our pots and pans (Zechariah 14:20, 21).
But there’s more. God not only wants our homes to be holy, but all the area around our homes. Talking about Ezekiel’s temple in Ezekiel 43:12 it says: “This is the law of the house; Upon the top of the mountain THE WHOLE LIMIT THEREOF ROUND ABOUT SHALL BE MOST HOLY. Behold, this is the law of the house.” You may only have a little backyard, or you may own many acres. Whatever God has given to you, He wants it all to be holy.
We not only guard what goes on in our homes but what goes on around our homes. Who hangs out with our children? What is happening on the inside? What is happening on the outside?
Fill your home with everything that promotes holiness and cast out every evil thing.
Holiness begins with you, dear wife and mother. You are the heart of the home, and it is your responsibility to make it holy. Make it your vision to make a holy place for God in the midst of this sinful world.
Hebrews 12:14: “Follow peace with all men, and holiness, without which no man shall see the Lord.”
May you have a beautiful day in your home,
Nancy Campbell
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Marriage is a sacred institution and motherhood is also a sacred calling. The humanistic programming of today, masterminded by Satan, relegates motherhood to the “common” or even the “inferior.” This is a lie. It is time we saw motherhood as God sees it, a holy and elevated estate.
1 Timothy 2:15 (BSB) reminds us that women will be “saved through childbearing—if they continue in faith, love, and HOLINESS, with self-control.” The Scriptures combine motherhood with holiness. This word is translated “sanctification” in other places and literally means to be purified. Motherhood is certainly a role that exposes our flesh and our need to be purified, doesn’t it?
There is an interesting verse in the Apocrypha. The Apocrypha was not included in the canon of Scripture, but it is good reading. Ecclesiasticus 1:16 (Knox) says: “Wouldest thou be wise, the first step is fear of the Lord . . . it goes with holy motherhood.”
Mother, God sees your work as holy. You are called into holy employment! You are set apart by God for this sacred task, the mightiest career in the nation. Motherhood is what keeps civilization going. Motherhood determines the rise or fall of the nation. Motherhood is eternal. God has divinely called you to not only train your children to spread the kingdom of God on this earth but to prepare them for the eternal realm.
You may think that much of what you do in the home is mundane and worthless. Wrong thinking! Everything you do in your home—scrubbing toilets, changing diapers, teaching your children, or preparing meals are all part of the holy estate of motherhood. Every task is holy, no matter how lowly.
Zechariah 14:20, 21 talks about even our pots and pans being holy unto the Lord. That makes a difference to preparing meals, doesn’t it?
What a privilege and blessing to be employed in a holy vocation.
May your home be filled with the presence of the Lord today,
Nancy Campbell
Painting by Trent Gudmandsen
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This was the motto of a Chinese Evangelist, Leland Wang and he lived by this motto for 44 years. He wouldn’t eat breakfast until he had read at least one chapter of the Bible to begin the day. I also like to keep to this motto. It’s such a good reminder to feed my spirit before I feed my body. It’s a good reminder to feed on God’s word before I check messages! It has been the habit of my life to get up early and immediately get into God’s word. It is one of the best habits off my life which rewards me the greatest blessings. Leland Wang also said that it was “not a law to bind me but a motto to remind me.”
Encourage your children and your young people to take up this motto too.
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Here is another “ness” word for you today—HOLINESS. We all know this word and it is very much part of our lives as wives and mothers. God wants us to enjoy a holy marriage, holy mothering, and to build a holy home.
Let’s talk about our marriage first. When a couple stands before the minister to take their marriage vows, he begins with the words: “Dearly Beloved, we are gathered together here in the sight of God, and in the face of this company, to join together this man and this woman in HOLY matrimony . . . and therefore, is not by any, to be entered into unadvisedly or lightly – but reverently, discreetly, advisedly, and solemnly. Into this HOLY estate these two persons present now come to be joined.”
Hebrews 13:4 (NET): “Marriage must be honored among all and the marriage bed kept undefiled, for God will judge sexually immoral people and adulterers.” Marriage is a holy estate. Because God ordained it, it is sacred and to be set apart for Him. It is not something we take lightly because we are taking part in a God-ordained holy institution.
A holy marriage begins before marriage. It begins in the courting days of keeping ourselves pure and undefiled to come to the marriage as a virgin. It should be exemplified on the wedding day. It grieves my heart that so many young brides come to their wedding day exposing so much of their flesh. Most wedding dresses today are strapless and many show too much cleavage. Why would a holy daughter of God show off her flesh to all her guests? At some weddings you hardly know where to look. The beautiful wedding dress is spoiled by the low-cut dress and the same with all the bridesmaids. It’s no longer holy. I believe a virgin should come to the wedding covered! It is her husband’s privilege to uncover her.
We then continue to build a holy marriage. A holy marriage begins in the mind. The devil will try to bring tempting thoughts to your mind which you must constantly resist and cast off in the name of Jesus. Your marriage is exclusive to you and your husband, not to be shared with any other man. You would never think of meeting with another man for coffee or fellowship. Once you are married, you enjoy friendships with the opposite sex only with your husband, not on your own.
We need to be reminded again of the marriage vows. “I take you to be my lawfully wedded husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, and FORSAKING ALL OTHERS, keep myself ONLY unto you as long as we both shall live.”
Let’s remember we have been called into a holy estate.
Blessings from Nancy Campbell
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Be faithful to imbed God’s truth into your children while they are young. You can never start too soon. Read 1 Timothy 3:15.
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There was a time when females were equated with softness and men with toughness. I believe that females should also be strong. We need to be strong physically. Childbearing and caring for a family is not for wimps. We need to also be strong emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. We must be strong to stand against all evil that the devil wants to bring to our marriages and families.
I shared with you recently that the Proverbs 31 woman is described as a strong woman: “Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is above rubies.” The word “virtuous” is “chayil” and means “strength, valiant, and is usually used in the context of an army.”
But although we must be strong, we dare not lose our softness. It is one of the beautiful characteristics of being female. I love the way the Hebrew uses organs of the body to express emotions and affection. There are four different Hebrew words for “womb” in the Bible. Let me share the meaning of just two of them.
“Racham” comes from the root word “to fondle.” It means “to cherish a babe in the womb, to love deeply, to be compassionate, to show tender mercy and pity.” This word is used interchangeably in the Bible for the womb of a woman and also to describe God’s compassion and mercy.
“Meah” comes from a root word meaning “to be soft.” It refers to the internal organs including the reproductive organs. It speaks of our emotions and also of God’s emotions.
The womb is more than a literal place to conceive and nurture a babe. It is the seat of our compassion and tenderness. As we embrace our womb and childbearing, we return again to a soft and tender spirit. Little babies keep our hearts soft and at the same time we reveal the compassionate and tender heart of God.
God has chosen His female creation to reveal His mercy and tenderness to the world—firstly to our children and then to a hurting world. No wonder 1 Timothy 2:15 says that we will be preserved through embracing childbearing. We are saved from becoming tough and hard. Motherhood keeps us soft, tender, and beautiful in our femaleness.
Be blessed,
Nancy Campbell
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Let’s look at another “ness” word today. Chasteness— there is such a word but it’s certainly not used very much in our vocabulary today, is it? Check it in your dictionary. It means “to be morally pure in thought or conduct, modest, abstaining from unlawful sexual intercourse.”
We read the word chaste in the Bible. It’s one of the attributes that older women are to teach the younger women (Titus 2:5). The Greek word “hagnos” means “clean, pure from every fault and carnality, modest, moral excellence,”
Do we have this quality about us? Are we showing it and teaching it to our daughters and the next generation? It is one of beautiful attributes of a Christlike character.
Perhaps we should ask ourselves some questions:
Am I clean in my mind? Chasteness begins in the mind. You will remember that Philippians 4:8 tells us to think on the things that are “pure.” That is the same word that is translated chaste.
Am I sexually pure and faithful to my marriage?
Am I chaste in my conduct and how I dress? Morally pure? It is sad that you could not describe much of the clothing in the Christian church today as “chaste.”
1 John 3:2, 3: “We know that, when he shall appear, we shall be like him; for we shall see him as he is. And every man that hath this hope in him purifieth (hagnizo – to keep clean and pure) himself, even as he is pure (hagnos).”
Let’s not take this lightly, dear ladies but know that God has called us to chasteness and to reveal it to the next generation. Can we be true examples of this beautiful quality that God loves and longs to see in His daughters?
Love from Nancy Campbell
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I love to discover new words, don’t you? Here’s some new words you may have not used before, but I think they are beautiful words to add to our vocabulary.
Awhile back I read the book, “A Severe Mercy” by Sheldon Vanauken which also includes 18 unpublished letters by C. S. Lewis. It is the true story of Sheldon and Davy’s romance and life together. They lifted love to a new plane and called their love relationship “INLOVENESS.” To them it was “the greatest glory ever known.” Isn’t this a lovely word to aspire to in our own marriage relationships?
Awhile back I read another new word in one of George McDonald’s books. He talked about “HOMENESS,” picturing the warmth, love, and joy of home. I love this word too. It takes thought, time, love, and prayer to make our home a place of “homeness,” doesn’t it? It’s never wasted time. It’s a beautiful thing. I’s a nice word to add to our vocab too, isn’t it?
Let’s keep going. What about “WOMBNESS”? Did you know there was such a word? Yes, it’s not some imaginative word. It’s a reality. It’s very much part of who we are as women. In fact, you would not be a woman if you did not have a womb!
However, did you know that that wombness also applies to God? The Hebrew word “racham” is used in the Bible to describe the literal womb of woman and to also reveal God’s compassion and tender mercy. It is translated “mercy” 32 times. When we embrace our wombness, we reveal the compassion and mercy of God.
The meaning of “feminine” in the 1828 Webster’s Dictionary is as follows: “The first syllable is probably from womb . . . The last part of the word is probably from man, quasi, “femman,” womb-man. To be feminine is to be ‘a womb man.’”
Embrace these lovely words. And there are so many more words that end with “ness” that describe our beautiful role as a mother and wife. I will share some more with you in future posts.
Have a beautiful day. It’s a lovely fall day here in Tennessee. Hope yours is wonderful too.
Nancy Campbell
Picture: Noble and Megan Barrett. One of my lovely grandbabies growing in the womb. Isn’t it such a beautiful picture?
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We are looking at the different descriptions of the women God wants us to be. Let’s read Proverbs 31:10 in the Amplified version: “A capable, intelligent, and virtuous woman—who is he who can find her? She is far more precious than jewels and her value is far above rubies or pearls.”
The word “virtuous” in the Hebrew is “chayil” meaning “virtue, valor, military strength.” It is the same Hebrew word that is translated “valor” or “valiant” for men.
This woman is not a wimp. She is someone to be reckoned with. She has the strength of a soldier in battle. She has physical strength, but her inward strength is even greater.
She is not strong in independence but strong in the precious qualities that God has given to His female creation.
Her strength of character enables her to submit to her husband instead of jumping up and down and demanding her own way.
Her strength of character guards her mouth instead of spitting out harsh and hurtful words.
Her strength of character enables her to stand strong against temptations of lust. She is strong in morality and purity. She will be true to her husband as long as she lives. She lives “only unto him” as she vowed on her wedding day. She stands true to her marriage vows in the good times and the difficult times, “for better, for worse, in sickness and in health . . .”
Her strength of character enables her to trust God even when life is overwhelming and full of trials. She keeps calm no matter what is happening around her.
Her strength of character causes her to purposely do good to her husband every day of her life (Proverbs 31:12).
Her strength of character saves her from getting sucked into the humanistic mindset of this world. She is not swayed by the crowd and what everyone does. Instead, she searches God’s Word to see what God says. She lives by the eternal principles of God’s Word rather than the mindset of current society. She is prepared to do it God’s way even if no one else follows (Romans 3:4)!
Her strength of character keeps her from lowering herself to gossip and worthless words. When she speaks, she opens her mouth in kindness (Proverbs 31:26).
Her strength of character saves her from selfishness and thinking only of her own needs. Her heart is big and open to the needs of others (Proverbs 31:20 and 1 Peter 5:10).
Her strength of character enables her to work hard and not neglect the feeding and clothing of her family (Proverbs 31:14, 15, 21, 27).
Her strength of character causes her to fear the Lord rather than man (Proverbs 31:30).
Dear mothers, don’t despair if you don’t feel that you have arrived. You cannot wave a wand and become a virtuous woman. You grow into it as you go through your trials and your battles. They make you stronger and more “valiant in the fight” (Hebrews 11:34). You grow into it as you seek God, His precious Word, and His wisdom.
Day by day you are becoming a woman who is strong in character.
Be blessed,
Nancy Campbell
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Proverbs 31:26 gives another definition of a woman in the home: “In her tongue is the law of kindness.” Kindness personifies a woman. That’s a challenge, isn’t it? When we resort to our fleshly ways, we lose the anointing of kindness. The Hebrew word is “chesed” which is one of the most wonderful revelations of God in the entire Bible. It’s closely related to “grace” in the New Testament. It’s God’s unfailing love even when we don’t deserve it. It reveals His mercy, forgiveness, loyalty, goodness, and kindness.
It’s more than kindness. Lovingkindness is a better word. It’s a kindness which involves two parties. It speaks of God’s covenant with Israel which is an everlasting covenant. His dealings with Israel show how He deals with us. Because of their waywardness and rebellion, God had to continually judge and punish His people. Because He is God, He cannot let go His justice and righteousness and must execute judgment on sin. Eventually, He could not tolerate the evil of the Israelites any longer and scattered them to the four corners of the earth.
Nevertheless, God had made a covenant. He is lovingkindness (chesed). His lovingkindness will not let go. He will not wash His hands of Israel, nor of us. He judges, but never gives up. Rebellion cannot destroy His love. It is the essence of that lovely old hymn, “O love that will not let me go.”
After vomiting the Israelites out of the land because of their sin, God sent hundreds of promises through His prophets to tell them that He will one day bring them back to the land again. These prophecies are being fulfilled before our eyes. We saw the miracle of Israel become a nation again on 14 May 1948 and now Jews are pouring back to the land from all over the world. This is God revealing Himself as “chesed.”
It is also related to the old English word “troth.” Have you heard this word before? At the end of their vows, the bridal couple says: “And thereto I give thee my troth." Our children used these original wedding vows on their wedding day. It means that the couple confesses publicly that they will be faithful to their marriage covenant.
Because God is a God of lovingkindness and we are created in His image, He desires us to show forth this grace too.
Let’s practice being kind. Kind to our husbands. Kind to our children. Kind to the people around us. Do you notice this Scriptures says that the virtuous woman reveals kindness through her tongue? Are you speaking kind and loving words to your husband today? Are you speaking kind words to your children?
May your home be blessed today,
Nancy Campbell
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I amazed by the descriptions about women in the Bible. If you want to feel good about being woman, read God’s Word. God lifts women to a high status. Proverbs 31:25 also states that she is a woman of strength.
Two different words are used to describe a woman’s strength in this chapter. The Hebrew word in Proverbs 31:25 is “oz” and means “majesty, might, power, and strength.”
Proverbs 31:10 gives us another picture of a woman’s strength: “Who can find a virtuous woman? For her price is far above rubies.” The word virtuous is “chayil” and means “might, strength, power, valor, and wealth. It is used mainly in the context of an army or war.”
“Chayil” is used to describe men of valor. Here’s an example in 1 Chronicles 12:8 where the Gadites are described as: “Men of might (chayil), and men of war fit for the battle, that could handle shield and buckler, whose faces were like the faces of lions, and were as swift as roes upon the mountains.”
It’s interesting that translators used the word “valor” for men, but the word “virtuous” for women, and yet it is the same Hebrew word. That doesn’t mean that we go out to fight in an army. I believe that is the place for men, not women. But God also wants us to be strong. Strong to fight, not flesh and blood, but principalities and powers. Because God ordained marriage and family, Satan hates it. He is out to destroy it.
Therefore, we are in the fight against the enemy. We fight against all his temptations to destroy our marriage or fragment our family life.
We need to be strong in the Lord, strong in faith, strong in truth, strong in our convictions, strong in embracing our femininity in a deceived world, strong in commitment to our marriage and to our family, and strong in faithfulness. We need to be strong spiritually, mentally, emotionally, and physically.
Who knows that motherhood is not for wimps? We need to be strong in every aspect of our lives for this high and noble calling. No wonder God pictures women clothed with strength.
Proverbs 31:17 says: “She girdeth her loins with strength (oz), and strengtheneth her arms.” Have you found that you have become stronger the longer you mother? Your arms certainly get stronger holding babies and toddlers. You become more mature and stronger in every aspect of your life.
Of course, we know our strength comes from the Lord. We can confess “I am clothed with strength,” knowing that we walk in His strength.
Be blessed today,
Nancy Campbell
Painting: “Climbing Mother” by Brian Kershisnik
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My last post to you was about the woman of honor and dignity. But the Bible gives many descriptions of women.
Proverbs 11:16 says: “A gracious woman retains honor.” The word “honor” in this Scripture is a different Hebrew word than in Proverbs 31:25. Some modern translations say that she earns respect, but the word “respect” is not strong enough. It is the Hebrew word “kabod” and means “weight (don’t despair: it doesn’t mean bodily weight, but to carry an authority in your speech and demeanor), glory, esteem, majesty, and wealth.” The word is mostly translated as “glory” in the Scriptures. The Douay-Rheims Bible translates it most correctly: “A gracious woman shall find glory.”
Feminists are fighting harder than ever for their women’s rights! They despise their womb. They rant and rave for the right to murder unborn children. How sad they do not understand that God has already endowed them with glory and majesty—the glory of womanhood.
I ask the question: why fight against the way God created us? Why throw away the glory that has already been given to us (Hosea 9:11)?
Do you notice that this Scripture says that the gracious woman RETAINS her glory? She doesn’t have to acquire it. It has already been given to her. All she needs to do is keep it. Hang on to it. Don’t throw it away. We keep our glory by embracing who God created us to be. By loving the way God created us as a female. By embracing child-bearing, nursing, and nurturing children. By adding glory to our husbands. and nursing a baby. By living dignified, gracious, and sensible lives.
How is it that women do not understand the way God created them? The Scripture is true that when people do not want God in their knowledge that He gives them over to a “reprobate mind,” a mind that is void of judgment (Romans 1:28).
This word “kabod” that speaks of women also describes God’s glory! God has invested us with a glory from Him when He created us female. How dare we throw it back in His face. Let’s retain our glory. This is how we glorify Him.
Be blessed today,
Nancy Campbell
Painting by William Rothenstein (1872 - 1945): Mother and Child (candlelight, oil on canvas).
Some examples of God’s glory: Exodus 24:17; 33:22; Numbers 14:10, 22; 16:42; Psalm 24:7-10; 29:3; 145:5; 2 Chronicles 5:14; 7:2; and Zechariah 2:5.
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Proverbs 31:25 (NLT) describes the virtuous woman: “She is clothed with strength and dignity, and she laughs without fear of the future.” The KJV uses the word “honor” but most versions translate it as “dignity.”
What does it mean to have dignity? The dictionary tells us:
It is the quality of being worthy of respect and honor.
Having a high sense of propriety, truth, and justice.
Moral correctness.
Elevated deportment of manners and behavior.
An elevated office, an honorable or high rank, a degree of excellence in estimation or the order of nature.
Dignity is meant to be the testimony of godly women. The more we walk in God’s ways, the more we will walk in dignity.
It is sad that many women are losing their dignity today. Many women are crying out for recognition. They rant and rave and demand their rights. But this is the opposite of womanhood and dignity.
We reveal our dignity when we embrace who God created us to be. He created us female. He created is physically to birth and nurse babies. He created us to be nurturers in society. This is God-given dignity. And don’t forget, dear mother, that you have an honorable and high rank as you faithfully mother in your home each day.
And even more amazing, too amazing to comprehend. The word “honor” in the King James Bible or “dignity” as many translations give it, is the same word that is used to describe God! Here is one of many Scriptures: “O LORD my God, thou art very great; thou art clothed with honor and majesty” (Psalm 104:1). And yet here in Proverbs 31:25 the woman is clothed with honor.”
We walk in this honor and dignity as we embrace God’s ways and His beautiful life He wants to live through us.
Walk in your God-given dignity today.
Love from Nancy Campbell
Painting: At the Cottage Door by William Henry Margetson 1861 – 1940.
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Growing up in New Zealand, a country that is part of the British Commonwealth, we were exposed to royalty. As children we were quite obsessed with royalty. My friends and I would search the papers and magazines every day to hopefully find a picture of one of the royal family which we would dutifully cut out and paste in our Royal Family scrapbooks. We would get together to look at one another’s books and swap pictures we didn’t have.
If you are a child of God, you belong to royalty. You have been welcomed into the kingdom of God and our ruler is the King of all the kings of the earth and Lord of all lords. I think we tend to forget who we really are. The Bible reminds us in 1 Peter 29: “But ye are a chosen generation, a ROYAL priesthood, a holy nation . . .” The dictionary says that royalty means “people of royal blood or status, members of a royal family, that which pertains to a king or queen.”
Truly, we have been redeemed by the royal blood of Jesus Christ, the Son of God. We now belong to a royal kingdom and a royal priesthood.
Therefore, don’t you think we should act in a more royal way? We are princesses of the King of kings. We should teach our daughters to dress, talk, walk, and act like princesses. We should teach our sons to act in a kingly manner. With nobility. Regality. Dignity. The authority of the kingdom of God. We need to remind them that they belong to a royal kingdom. We are raising princes and princesses.
I love Psalm 45:16 which says: “Instead of thy fathers shall be thy children, whom thou mayest make princes in all the earth.”
Of course, we will show them by our own example.
Begin to see yourself as a royal family. Train your children to behave in a royal manner. Become true ambassadors of the King of kings and Lord of lords.
Be blessed today,
Nancy Campbell
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Adding a few more thoughts to my post below, SHOULD MARRIAGE BE EXCLUSIVE?
The Bible tells us that love is jealous. What kind of love does a husband have for his wife if he is happy with her being with other guys? Or vice versa.
Song of Solomon 8:6: “Set me as a seal upon thine heart, as a seal upon thine arm: for love is strong as death: jealousy is cruel as the grave: the coals thereof are coals of fire, which hath a most vehement flame.” It’s not wrong for a husband or wife to be jealous.
Paul wrote to the Corinthians and said: “For I am jealous over you with godly jealousy: for I have espoused you to one husband, that I may present you as a chaste virgin to Christ. But I fear, lest by any means, as the serpent beguiled Eve through his subtlety, so your minds should be corrupted from the simplicity that is in Christ” (2 Corinthians 11:2, 3).
God states emphatically in Exodus 20:3-5: “Thou shalt have no other gods before me . . . Thou shalt not bow down thyself to them, nor serve them: for I the LORD thy God am jealous God.”
Marriage is a mystery. It is a picture of God and His people Israel. It is a picture of Christ and the church. God’s first commandment is to love Him with all our hearts and souls and minds and strength. And to cleave to Him. God is jealous when we love other things more than Him. He wants us to have the same commitment to Him that has.
Hosea 2:19, 20 says: “I will betroth thee unto me forever: yea, I will betroth thee unto me in righteousness, and in judgment, and in lovingkindness, and in mercies. I will even betroth thee unto me in faithfulness.”
The marriage relationship is an exclusive relationship. We do not share it with another, apart from couples and families together.
Even many pastors and ministers have fallen from grace and been lured into adultery because of counselling women on their own. They should use much discretion and counsel with their wife or another man.
Be blessed,
Nancy Campbell
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Dear lovely mothers, don’t despise all the meals you must cook for your family. Every meal is another glorious opportunity to gather your family together, to fellowship together, to bond together, to laugh and enjoy one another, and expect beautiful things to happen. Cooking the meal paves the way for all these lovely things to happen.
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God is bigger than any problem you face. You can trust Him completely.
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A Facebook question popped up on my Facebook awhile back: “What do you think about having a male friend apart from your husband? Vice versa too? Can it be a purely platonic relationship?”
I was grieved in my spirit by the answers to this question. Most answered saying they thought it was healthy and beneficial to have friends of the opposite sex who were not their husband.
I beg your pardon! What has happened to God’s ideal of marriage? What has happened to the sacredness of marriage? What has happened to keeping true to our solemn marriage vows?
The minister asks the couple to repeat: I, ________, take thee ________, to be my wedded husband/wife, to have an to hold from this day forward, for better for worse, for richer or for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, and FORSAKING ALL OTHERS, BE FAITHFUL ONLY UNTO HER/HIM ’til death do us part, according to God’s ordinance; and thereto I PLEDGE THEE MY TROTH.”
I guess that many have never heard the last phrase, “pledge thee my troth.” but I love these words. They were always part of the original marriage vows. The word “troth” means to pledge lifelong faithfulness, truthfulness, loyalty, and fidelity.” Troth not only rhymes with oath but is a synonym of oath.
We know that “forsaking all others,” means to keep sexually pure in marriage. But I believe it means more than that. It means forsaking PERSONAL friendships with the opposite sex. I don’t care what all these other folk say, it is not God’s plan for marriage. Now that doesn’t mean you can’t have friendship with men. My husband and I have many friendships with couples and families together. We have given ourselves to hospitality through the years and we enjoy the rich blessing of many couples at our table as we enjoy friendship together.
But I wouldn’t dream of going out to eat or going somewhere on my own with the husband of one of those couples. Why do I need to do that? Why do I need another guy apart from my husband? I have vowed to forsake all others and be faithful only unto him—sexually, emotionally, mentally, and because of my scared marriage vows. Marriage is exclusive, not only physically, but also emotionally.
And how does this affect our children and the next generation? I recently asked some young people: “How would you feel if your father or mother went out on their own with someone of the opposite sex?” They were aghast. They said it would make them feel very insecure. One girl mentioned that one time she was coming home from work and saw her mother with another man in the car. Her heart fell. She arrived home to find that her mother was taking the builder home who was working on the house! But just seeing another man in the car devastated her.
Blessings to you today,
Nancy Campbell
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GOD NEVER CHANGES
From Patricia Holmes, missionary in Panama.
I have been thinking the most wonderful thoughts today. Care to join me?
Everything changes, but God does not.
We grow old, but God is timeless.
We have questions, but God has answers!
We have problems, but God has solutions.
Even good things “come and go,” but God remains stable.
We make mistakes, but God is forgiving.
The night is dark, but God brings light (and joy in the morning).
Our thoughts are meager, but God’s are bountiFULL.
Our sight is limited, but God created a Heaven of color.
Our hearing is limited, but God hears the slightest whisper.
The wind blows and we cannot see it, but God directs its path.
The oceans may billow and boil, but God can walk on the waves.
Our (aging) memories may fail, but God never forgets (a single thing).
We grow tired, but God is ever watchful.
We may feel alone, but God never leaves us.
ISN'T GOD GOOD?
~ Patricia Homes
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