WHAT KIND OF MARRIAGE DO YOU WANT?
A young lady asked Colin and me the question, “What’s the answer to a good marriage?”My husband answered, “The Lord.” A good answer but I don’t think there is more.
There was a time when young girls could usually trust that if they married a “Christian” they would have a happy marriage. That is not the case today. It is not enough for a young man to be a Christian. The question is, What kind of a Christian is he?
There are so many Christian young men today who are not prepared for marriage. They may be in their mid-twenties, but they are still not ready to take on responsibility. They are not ready to embrace children into their marriage. They are not ready to provide for a wife to stay home and care for these children. They are not even ready to settle down!
My answer to that young lady was, “It is more than that!” How could I say that? Isn’t God enough? Yes, of course He is, but sadly there are many who love the Lord, but do not understand His truth and His ways regarding marriage and family. They may acknowledge they love God but their lives follow the world instead of the Bible.
Of course, it takes both the man and his wife to make the marriage. Apart from the foundation of understanding the purpose for marriage and being ready to take responsibility, my question to a young couple is, “What kind of marriage do you want?”
“Do you want an average marriage?” Well, just be a normal couple and maybe you’ll scrape through.
“Do you want an above-average marriage?” That will take more work. You won’t be living to yourself. You will not only delight to love your husband but to honor him and show your love tangibly to him in myriads of ways. You will purposefully build into your marriage each new day.
Or “Do you want an amazing marriage?” That means you’ve got to be amazing! Don’t wait for your husband to be amazing. You be the one. Think of how you can make his life amazing. Think of how you can honor him. Think of how you can serve him. Think of how you can intoxicate him.
The more you pour out on him, the more he will respond.
Things don’t just happen. You must make them happen.
Blessings to you today,
Nancy Campbell
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