How Many Is Too Many?

I was very excited to be carrying our first child and had prepared to deliver naturally. My first born was a little stubborn and was three weeks late. My Doctor decided to induce, even though I had heard it could increase my chances of a c-section. I was terrified of the possibility of a c-section.

I labored for 12 hours and never progressed passed a fingertip. Her heart rate was dropping and my doctor suggested a c-section. At 22 I was young and uneducated about medical practices and agreed to go ahead.

My second child was 9 lbs. 9 oz. at two weeks early. They knew he was big and my doctor said I would probably not have been able to deliver a baby over 8 lbs. because the shape of my cervix-so they performed another c-section.

While pregnant with my third child, the doctor told me about the possibility of a VBAC. I thought about it but did not have peace. Little did we know that the cord was wrapped twice around her neck?

I had now had three c-sections and doctors strongly suggested no more. However, God was working on my heart and the desire for another baby was very strong. This time my doctor did not give me the option to deliver vaginally because he was afraid my uterus would be too thin and I may rupture. When I delivered my fourth child, the doctor nicked him in the head with the scalpel during the delivery. He was shocked at how thin it was. He said it was like a piece of saran wrap over the baby.

The doctor told my husband it would be too risky for me to have any more children and strongly suggested I should have my tubes tied. I was devastated and was grieving the thought of not being able to carry and nurse another blessing. You see, after my fourth child, God changed my heart about letting Him plan our family and shortly thereafter my husband's heart changed also. We decided to fully trust God and prayed that He would strengthen and repair my uterus.

I was soon pregnant with twins that I miscarried at 10 weeks and later a little girl at 10 weeks also. We prayed and asked God to bless us again. Our faith was strong and we knew God was totally in control. God blessed us with our fifth child and again I delivered by c-section.

Our sixth baby was also born by c-section. He was a big baby too. My doctor again suggested we quit, but my heart kept saying, "Trust the Lord" and we did. We went to an Above Rubies Family Camp and I asked Nancy to pray over my uterus and ask the Lord to bless and strengthen it. Our faith never wavered, even though most people thought we were crazy and that we were not considering the children I already had at home by putting my health at risk again.

I went on to have three more children by c-section and I am still hoping for more children. My uterus was no thinner than it had been and remained strong to hold these little blessings. I must say that both of my doctors are believers and they know we pray for them as well as my health. I share my testimony to give God the glory for all of these children He has blessed us with, no matter how they arrived. I fully believe God is able.

And our children are great gifts.

MELANIE BEGGS

Lincolnton, Georgia, USA

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Larry and Melanie are blessed 9 children and 3 waiting in heaven--Lyndsie (23) and her husband Daniel, Chandler (21), Kendyl (19), Madison (15), Ansley (11), Garrison (9),

Braxton (7), Jackson (4) and Ellyn (2)-as at mid 2010. Lyndsie is not able to have children due to cancer, but is adopting a little girl, Aubrey Ann in November, 2010.

 

Ten Children-Nine C-sections!

"In every thing give thanks: for this is the will of God, in Christ Jesus, concerning you."
I Thessalonians 5:18.

Ever since I was a little girl, I wanted to be a mommy. I dreamed of having lots of children and living in the country. I was so happy when I married my sweetheart, Justin at 19 years in June 1987. We were excited to be expecting our first child in June 1988.

My due date came and went. My doctor decided to induce labor when I was eleven days overdue. After 14 hours of back labor, dilating only to 3 cm, I was sent home. A failed induction. I went back to the hospital two days and dilated to 4 cm, but no further. I was hooked up to monitors and machines, and put to bed like a sick woman. There was no encouragement to walk around, no herbs to help, and no midwife to assist me. My doctor suggested a c-section, based on failure to progress in labor. Our beautiful daughter, Emilee was born that evening by c-section, weighing 9 lbs. She was perfectly healthy with a 9-10 Apgar score. I recovered well and fell totally in love with my daughter, being a mother, and breastfeeding.

I was excited to learn I was pregnant again when Emilee was a year old, but that pregnancy was cut short when I found out it was a molar pregnancy. I was devastated to learn that I should not get pregnant again for one year to reduce the chances of it reoccurring. One year later, I got pregnant again and planned to have a VBAC. My hopes were dashed by my doctor who gave me all of the negative reasons why NOT to try for a vaginal birth. I reluctantly gave in, giving birth by c-section in August 1991 to another beautiful healthy girl, Kailee, weighing 8# 3 oz.

When I became pregnant again, I was really concerned about having multiple c-sections. I thought to myself, "This time I will do it! I will have a natural birth." I went past my due date, hoping to go into labor on my own. However, my doctor predicted a large baby again and was so concerned that I gave in to another c-section! Our first son was born in January 1994. Colt was 10 lbs. 5 oz. and I thought I had broken a record, at least in our large church! I found out the following week that my friend gave birth to an 11 lb. son the day before mine!

The pattern continued although I was still determined to change the course. After all, Justin and I were catching a vision to allow God to determine our family size. I'd conceived easily so far, so we could end up with a lot of children! How many c-sections could a woman have? I was determined to have a VBAC with the next one!

As my fourth pregnancy progressed in 1996, they discovered the baby was breech. Ugh. I allowed the doctor to schedule a c-section for November 1st, but went into labor the night before that date. I was excited. I vividly remember praying on my knees in our living room while my husband was getting ready to go to the hospital with me. I prayed that the baby would turn! While on my knees, she DID turn from breech to a head down position! It was the most awesome experience to have God answer prayer p in the midst of asking Him!

I labored all night, and, as usual, did not dilate past 3 cm. My husband and I decided that the Lord was leading me to another c-section. Rebekah was 9 lbs. She had meconium staining and needed extensive suctioning to remove all traces from her airways. With a few extra days in NICU she recovered and was able to come home.

I still longed for a natural birth, even a home birth, but I began to understand that "God's ways are higher than my ways. And His thoughts are higher than my thoughts." (Isaiah 55:9) I looked for ways to minister to those I met at the hospital and opportunities fell into my lap. One sweet nurse had lost a baby in miscarriage and was discouraged and grieving. I encouraged her to not be afraid to try again. A cleaning lady told me she was a single mom and was trying to raise two teenage sons alone. My heart went out to her and I encouraged her to lean on God for strength. Both of these women remembered me when I came to the hospital for future births.

I began seeing a new doctor and he did not discourage me from having more children. He dutifully gave me the medical warnings regarding multiple cesareans but told me that my uterus was as strong as he could expect after four c-sections.

I had four boys in the next seven years, all by c-section. Bret weighed 9 lbs. 5 oz (September 1998), Titus, 9 lbs. 2 oz. (April 2001), Seth, 11 lbs. 11 oz. (January 2003), and Levi, 10 lbs.15 oz (April 2005). During these years, I learned about homeopathic medicine, essential oils, and herbs. My favorite discovery was red raspberry leaf, which is very beneficial to pregnant and nursing moms. It strengthens the womb, and I drank gallons of it in tea form. All of this fascinated me! My family's life and health changed. I studied every spare moment, and always practiced what I learned on myself and my family. We stayed away from the doctor's offices, and I was thrilled to learn that I could treat nearly everything my family needed with inexpensive herbs that God created for our healing! We'd already been eating whole foods, our own honey, and of course planted a large garden every year.

When our eighth child, Levi was a year old, my life was busy with home schooling and running a household of ten people. But, can you believe it? I found myself longing for another baby! I began specifically asking God for a girl. My three daughters were growing up and the house was busy and loud with all of the little boys. I told God that if He would bless me with just one more baby I would be so thankful.

I found out I was pregnant just after Mother's Day, 2007 when Levi was two years old. I rolled over in bed one morning and sleepily declared to my husband I was going to have twins. I do not know why I said that! God had given me two beautiful girl names but I never really thought I would use them both. Although I was armed with this "head's up" from God, I still couldn't believe my eyes when I had an ultrasound a week later and saw my twins! I knew that I was looking at the precious girls that God had already named (even though it was too early to tell the sex on the ultrasound).

This pregnancy was truly a journey of faith as my uterus eventually held 15 pounds of babies. I remained healthy, although by about 28 weeks, my older daughters were running the house while I drank my red raspberry leaf tea and shuffled around. Lilliana Joy Krista and Shoshana Faith Anne Elizabeth were born January 16, 2008, weighing 7 lbs. 11 oz. and 7 lbs. 4 oz., my ninth c-section. They were perfectly healthy, my uterus held up to the weight of over 15 pounds of babies and placentas, and I have not stopped praising God for my little treasures!

My heart and arms are full. God answered my prayers to have a lot of children, no matter how they came into this world. I love to be home and I still don't like to be in the hospital, but I have allowed God to move me out of my comfort zone and hopefully use me for His glory. "I will praise Thee, Oh Lord my God, with all my heart: and I will glorify Thy Name for evermore." (Psalm 86:12).

KRISTA ROWLAND

Pickneyville, Illinois, USA

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Justin and Krista's children are Emilee (22), Kailee (19 married to Jared in June 2010), Colt (16), Rebekah (14), Bret (12), Titus (9), Seth (7), Levi (5) and her twins which she calls her "treasures"--Lilliana and Shoshana (2-as at October 2010.

 

 

 

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