Above Rubies Daily Encouragement Blogs

Men, another important ingredient to love that we as fathers and husbands need to role model is hope. If we do not physically demonstrate this hope dimension of love, it remains an abstract and dormant something that cannot be explained. The Apostle Paul, in revealing the all important "agape" love, states that it "hopes all things."

Hope is an unfulfilled expectation that we trust will one day be fulfilled and continue to be fulfilled. It is something we believe for but have not yet fully received.

When we fell in love with our wife, we hoped that our advancements toward her and our very special interest in her would arouse a reciprocal love. We eagerly and anxiously hoped that one day, in the not too distant future, we would be engaged and married. Likewise, we are to love our wife and family with an ever continuing hope. We believe that our love for them will produce an ever increasing and meaningful intimacy, as well as rich relationships, that will be mutually satisfying to all parties.

In this way, hope not only has the present in mind, but also a better future.

Be encouraged.

Colin Campbell

WHO WE TRAIN OUR SONS TO BE AT HOME IS WHAT THEY WILL BE IN THIS WORLD!

One writer states, "Every man steps from the home door into the social, moral, and civil world. What he is upon the home step he will be in the field of life."

Jesus said, "The Father loveth the Son, and hath given all things into his hand" (John 3:25 and 5:20). The reason for this is that God believed all things concerning His Son.

Men, our families desperately need fathers who will daily demonstrate the love that believes that in God all things are possible. To say that we love when we do not actively demonstrate we believe in the subject or object of our love is hypocritical. In a natural sense, there are those who love money and they demonstrate their belief in it by working hard to get it and get lots of it! The same applies to foods that we love. In eating them we demonstrate we believe in them to satisfy our appetite in some way.

In the same way, every wife needs a husband who not only says that he loves her but demonstrates his love by his faith in her. He trusts his home and family into her care. He should also be able to trust his check book into her care, as well as many other things (Proverbs 31:10-31).

The same principle of love applies also to his growing children. There will come times when his love for them will be demonstrated by his belief that they will drive the family car and look after it. He will trust his sons and daughters to look after the family home and lawns, etc. He will trust his tools, tractors, and many things into his sons hands because he believes in them. When they blow, or mess up his trust, he does not stop loving them, training them, and believing in them.

Be encouraged.

Colin Campbell

Role modeling the love that "believes all things" is possible with Jesus Christ. Men, the truth is that when we discipline our children for misbehavior, it is not because we do not believe in them or that one day they will become a mature person. It is quite the opposite. We discipline them because we do believe in them. We discipline them because we love them. To not discipline them when they need it would be to discredit and harm them. I do not believe that children can become mature good people without some form of discipline, when needed, while growing up.

No matter how far one of God's creatures, whom He loves, falls into sin and rebellion God's love will come to the rescue. God believes that His love, displayed through the cross, will redeem, rescue, and deliver any soul who will put faith in His saving grace.

All things are possible with a love that believes that all things are possible with God. God believes in this love that believes all things are possible. Therefore, we should also believe and role model this love to our family. Obviously this does not mean we are to believe everyone at all times, period. This would be foolish. This is what we should always want to do, but until Christ works in any particular person you want to believe in, one's faith can be quickly dashed to pieces.

Be encouraged.

Colin Campbell

Men, our children need fathers who are always willing to believe that their children will succeed, will do well in life, will do the right thing for their God and their fellowman, and will make their parents proud of them. Putting it straight and to the point, every child needs parents who will always be willing, no matter what, to believe the best for their children.

What a blessing it is for every child to know, without a doubt, that his parents honestly believe in him or her. This assists children to grow up not willingly wanting to disappoint their parents. What a tragedy it is for children to grow up hearing their parents say, "You will never amount to anything," ":You are useless," "You are a failure," or "You don't have what it takes."

Leon Morris in his commentary on this Scripture says that "believing all things" points to the quality of love which is always ready to allow for circumstances and to see the best in others. The Moffat's translations says, "Always eager to believe the best." If children have parents who believe in them and do their best to provide for them, they should not have to go through so much trouble and failure.

This type of love must be role modeled in our homes first. How easy it is for us to write people off too quickly. Most children will have to learn from their mistakes, and some are slower than others. However, given some time to wise up, especially with a father figure who believes in the best for them despite their failures, this love will not fail in most cases. This love that believes all things and always hopes for the best does so because it knows that all things are possible with God.

Be encouraged.

COLIN CAMPBELL

Men, the love that "bears all things" does not compromise or tolerate all things. Banish the thought! When it is within our power to turn off the TV because the program is not conducive to a godly atmosphere in the home and the lives our family, then act and turn it off. Ezra 10:4 exhorts us, "Be of good courage, and DO IT." Don't grin and bear it because some members of the family want their flesh to be entertained by it.

Lot's righteous soul was VEXED from day to day with the filthy manner of life of the (2 Peter 2:6-8). And yet, for some reason Lot chose to live in Sodom. He could have chosen to live somewhere else. Lot was not forced to live in Sodom. He did not have to "out of love" bear with the sins of Sodom. For the sake of his wife and family he should have removed himself long before the angels had to forcibly rescue him out of that sinful place (Genesis 19:15-16). His choice to live in this city was a bad decision and cost him the lives of children and grandchildren.

There are many trials, sicknesses, pains, personality differences, intellectual weaknesses, immaturities in children, and immaturities in Christians. Even Jesus was wearied with having to put up with the unbelief of his disciples (Matthew 17:17). We must also bear persecutions from enemies , and sometimes, friends. Men, are we truly role modeling the love that does not write people off that do not agree with us? Our love for our families, as well as our fellow Christians, has to be a love that covers a multitude of sins, weaknesses, and differences. Our Heavenly Father loves us despite our many frailties and failures. Should not we fathers do the same?

The children of Israel had to wander in the wilderness for 40 long years until they learned to stop their moaning, groaning, and complaining. They could not leave the wilderness until they had learned to experience God's love that "bears all things" without complaining.

Be encouraged.

Colin Campbell

In our home and before our family we are to role model what it means to bear the infirmities of the weak. Romans 15:1 says, "We then that are strong ought to bear the infirmities of the weak, and not to please ourselves." The word infirmities" in this Scripture means "scruples of conscience" and it is the only time where it is used.

We may invite a guest into our home who, for conscience sake, will not eat certain foods or drink any type of wine, etc. In such cases, because of the love that "bears all things" we should not offend them by disputing with their belief, or even violating their conscience by doing in front of them what would offend them. Even when we do not agree with their opinion, it is better to keep the unity of the Spirit in forbearing love than offend for the sake of food and drink.

Galatians 6:2 says, "Bear ye one another's burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ." It is in our home first that we are to bear one another's burdens. Whatever burdens our wife is bearing, as a husband we must lovingly bear them with her. This means we are to roll up our sleeves and help her when she is over-burdened with the huge task of mothering the children and managing the home or is sick. Perhaps the children are sick or facing some of the many challenges involved in growing up. We must do our part to help our wife with the burden she carries. Having first role modeled this love that bears all things in our home, we then love our neighbors with this burden bearing love as we would have ourselves to be loved. In doing so, we fulfill the law of Christ.

Be encouraged.

Colin Campbell

The Greek word for "bear" is "stego" meaning "to roof over, to cover with silence, endure patiently, forebear, suffer." There are some things in life that we find difficult to change, and in some cases, cannot change, at least without divine intervention.

Currently, we are stuck with an extremely socialistic government who are forcing upon us a health care law that cancels out previous benefits and forces Christians to pay taxes on contraception, sterilization, and abortion. This goes against our Christian convictions. In the end we have to pray that this will be struck down in the next elections, if not before.

If we are living in states that recognize and legalize homosexual marriage, we must continue to resist and pray. However, until God intervenes in some way we will just have to "bear" the injustice of it all, although we never actively stop resisting evil.

We may be called to "bear" with droughts, famines, and wars. We may have to bear with infirmities, sicknesses, and trials. For the sake of Christ we may be called to bear with difficult family members and neighbors, as well as judgmental and critical tongues. This is all part of role modeling the love of God.

However, we must never mistake "bearing all things" to mean compromising, giving in, or becoming soft toward evil. Never, never throw in the towel and give up the fight against abortion, homosexuality, unwarranted divorce, pornography or any form of evil.

Be encouraged.

Colin Campbell

Men, how true it is that you can give without loving, but you can never love without giving. Rejoicing in the truth is a form of giving the right response toward truth. Just as "God loves a cheerful giver" (2 Corinthians 9:7), He also loves His people to rejoice in the truth.

Fathers, as we seek to role model this love that rejoices in the truth, may our wives and families never observe us dragging our feet when it comes time to attend church services. They should see us rejoicing to worship, pray, and seek truth together.

Psalm 122:1 says, "I was glad when they said unto me, Let us go into the house of the Lord."

Psalm 100:4 says, "Enter into his gates with thanksgiving, and into his courts with praise: be thankful unto him, and bless his name."

Fathers, we must demonstrate before our families at our Family Devotions each morning and evening that we actually ENJOY Family Devotions. We should show that we ENJOY reading God's Word and ENJOY our prayer times together. If we rejoice in the things of God, our families will be motivated to do the same.

We must resist the temptation to drag our feet in the call to prayer. Not only will God not accept this attitude, but our families will be negatively affected. When it comes to all matters concerning God's truth, wouldn't it be good if our families could observe our enjoyment, smiles, hearty agreement, our brightened eyes, and glad exclamations? This will encourage them in a godly way.

Be encouraged.

Colin Campbell

It is possible to live to know the truth, grudgingly adhere to it, give lip serve to it, but not rejoice in it. As Christian role models of God's divine love we must deplore and resist such an abhorrent attitude.

God Himself warns against this happening amongst His people. Our wife and family must never observe such behavior in us, for it will influence them to also be casual and slack towards serving God.

In Isaiah 1:10-14 God likens His people Israel to Sodom and Gomorrah, "Hear the word of the Lord, ye rulers of Sodom; give ear unto the law of our God, ye people of Gomorrah. To what purpose is the multitude of your sacrifices unto me? saith the Lord: I am full of the burnt offerings of rams, and the fat of fed beasts; and I delight not in the blood of bullocks, or of lambs, or of the he goats... Bring no more vain oblations, incense is an abomination unto me; the new moons and Sabbaths, the calling of assemblies, I cannot away with; it is iniquity, even the solemn meeting. Your new moons and your appointed feasts my soul hateth: they are a trouble unto me; I am weary to bear them."

Jesus Christ revealed the right attitude we must have towards the truth. Speaking of Jesus, Psalm 40:6-8 says, "Sacrifice and offering thou didst not desire; mine ears hast thou opened: burnt offering and sin offering hast thou not required. Then said I, Lo, I come: in the volume of the book it is written of me, I delight to do thy will, O my God: yea, thy law is within my heart." Read also Hebrews 10:5-9.

As fathers and mothers we must role model this important aspect of God's true love. We must role model the knowledge of truth as well as delight to obey the truth.

Be encouraged.

Colin Campbell

To rejoice when your persecutors are being judged would be iniquity. Jesus said, "But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you" (Matthew 5:44).

Proverbs 24:17-18 says, "Rejoice not when thine enemy falleth, and let not thine heart be glad when he stumbleth: Lest the Lord see it, and it displease him, and he turn away his wrath from him."

Psalm 141:5 says, "Let the righteous smite me; it shall be a kindness: and let him reprove me; it shall be an excellent oil, which shall not break my head, for yet my prayer also shall be in their calamities."

Men, there are times when well-meaning, and even good men, will reprove us out of their own wisdom and understanding. At the time, it can often add more burden for our hearts to bear, like Job's so-called comforters. In reality, they were his discomforters.

Job could have easily rejoiced when calamity struck them, but instead he prayed for them. Job 42:7-10 says, "The Lord said to Eliphaz the Temanite, My wrath is kindled against thee, and against thy two friends: for ye have not spoken of me the thing that is right, as my servant Job hath. Therefore take unto you now seven bullocks and seven rams, and go to my servant Job, and offer up for yourselves a burnt offering; and my servant Job shall pray for you: for him will I accept... And the Lord turned the captivity of Job when he PRAYED FOR HIS FRIENDS: also the Lord gave Job twice as much as he had before."

Men, this is a great lesson for us to role model before our families of the love of God that rejoices not when trouble comes to our friends who have troubled us and who may have committed iniquity against us. God will repay in His time and when He does we must not rejoice with our family, but rather pray for them.

Be encouraged.

Colin Campbell

Men, God's love that "rejoices not in iniquity" is also saddened and offended at news proclaiming iniquity. In 1 Samuel chapter 31 we read how King Saul, having lost three of his sons (including Jonathan), was also seriously wounded by arrows. Saul called upon his armor bearer to slay him before the uncircumcised Philistines could get to him. The armor bearer would not kill his master. Therefore, Saul fell on his own sword and died, as also did his armor bearer.

In 2 Samuel chapter 1 a young man runs to inform David of how he had personally killed Saul at Saul's request and brought the crown from his head and the bracelet from his arm as proof. Even though Saul was an enemy toward David, this news did not please David. He did not rejoice in the iniquity of slaying the Lord's anointed. As a result, this young man was slain for the news he thought would cause David to rejoice.

The truth was that David had already had the opportunity to slay Saul himself but refused because of the anointing God had given to Saul while he lived. King Saul was also an Israelite, meaning that he was of the chosen seed, despite all his sins.

Men, how casual and flippant we can be when and evil report reaches us. How easy it is to say, "Well, they deserved it."

Be encouraged.

Colin Campbell

Men, it is better to inform our families of what God is doing rather than what the devil is doing. Our children need to be led by fathers and mothers who refuse to be captivated by scandalous behavior, whether it is within the family or outside the family. The publishing of iniquity is big business in this country. The checkout stands, tabloids, and media are full of it, openly glamorizing sin with glossy front covers to get our attention.

God's love eeds to be role modeled in our homes in order to raise a generation who will be powerful in the truth and revolutionary promoters of righteousness. We want to raise children who will push back the powers of darkness, replacing leaders that promote corruption and perversion throughout the hallways of our government, media, and state education.

Today, the news coming out of our media is choked full of scandalous iniquity which is indicative of the evil times in which we live. I am not saying that we should not know and be aware of the dangerous laws being laid upon us or of the scandalous lies and cover ups in which government is involved. We must certainly be aware of these so we can do all that is possible to expose and thwart the evil as well as protect ourselves and families.

However, we must not be entertained by it, find pleasure in sharing it, or in any way make fun or light of it. Ephesians 5:11 says, "Have no fellowship with the unfruitful works of darkness, but rather reprove (expose) them."

Be encouraged.

Colin Campbell

Men, our thought life is much more important that we realize because evil thoughts are not in any way compatible with God's unselfish love. They dilute, contaminate, and destroy it. Instead, wholesome, unselfish, giving thoughts, without expecting anything in return, should flood our thought life. This is why we men need to be filled with the Holy Spirit, especially in our hearts and minds.

We must not let our thought life dwell on negative, impure, ungodly, resentful, mean, selfish, and stingy thoughts. Instead, we should have minds filled with thoughts on how we can bless and be generous to others. The Good Samaritan (Luke 10:25-37) role modeled the love of God perfectly, but the priest and Levite, through thoughts of pride and indifference (evil thoughts) refused to demonstrate the pure love of God that thinks no evil.

This is why we need to read only literature that stirs our minds to think thoughts of blessing and loving others. God's Word contains many passages that encourage us in this direction. Philippians 4:8 says, "Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there by any virtue, and if there by any praise, think on these things."

Be encouraged.

Colin Campbell

Men, believing an evil report about someone or a certain group of people without thoroughly investigating the facts is not the love that thinks no evil. I know through experience what a horrible thing it is to have lies and an evil report spoken or published against you. It makes you feel like you want to lash out and set the record straight, or even take someone to court for deformation of character. However, I have found that the best thing to do is to put it all in God's hands and let Him take vengeance if He wants to in His own time. I usually make matters worse when I am too quick to set things straight.

Hebrews 10:30 says, "Vengeance belongs unto me, I will recompense, saith the Lord. And again, The Lord shall judge his people."

We have to be on guard when we listen to an evil report. Our natural inclination is to want to hear it and pass judgment using our opinions before checking out the truth. This sort of thing is a huge problem with man in his fallen state and should not be so with professing born again Spirit filled believers. In Numbers 13:22 it tells us how the children of Israel fell into a 40 year judgment by listening to an evil report which was based on fear and unbelief.

Men, our wife and children need to see that we are men who do not rush to judgment and do not believe everything we hear on TV news or just plain gossip.

Be encouraged.

Colin Campbell

“The wimpy Christian does not feel the convictions that motivate him to cry out to God. This sort of thing is completely foreign to his casual way of thinking. He likes to stay cool, calm and undisturbed. If he attended the prayer meetings, he might feel a little of God’s heart, and what would that do to his smooth, delicate constitution? It may make him feel a trifle uncomfortable about watching his next unclean movie!”

Men, keep your minds CLEAN AT ALL TIMES! It is one thing to say we believe in love that "thinks no evil" but it is quite another thing to role model this love before our family. Evil thoughts can not only be thoughts of anger, resentment, and retribution, but also thoughts of impurity, lust, envy, jealousy, and selfishness. Evil thoughts can be triggered by what we watch, read, or listen to. For these reasons we must be careful about the company we keep, the movies we watch, and the literature we read. Our friends and acquaintances may think a movie is harmless, but the truth is, the love of God that is shed abroad in our hearts by the Holy Spirit "thinks no evil."

This is the love we must role model for the sake of Christ who certainly role modeled it, as well as for our immediate family's sake with whom we live our lives every day.

Men who call themselves Christians, but watch porn, whether occasionally or frequently, cannot role model God's love to their wife and family. They are deceived if they think they can for they have adulterated and diluted the pure love of God that "thinks no evil." God's love flows only through CLEAN HEARTS AND MINDS that have not been defiled by the evil of lustful pornographic movies or literature.

Men, we must not fool ourselves. Our wife and family deserve the best from us.

Be encouraged.

Colin Campbell

Men, how can we say we role model the love of God when we think or meditate on anything evil? Evil thoughts of resentment, retribution, or how we may pay back someone who has hurt us, now or in the past, grieves the Holy Spirit within us. In turn, this eclipses and hinders the love of God from flowing through us.

Matthew 5:45 says, "That we may be the children of your Father which is in heaven: for he maketh his sun to rise on the evil and on the good, and sendeth rain on the just and on the unjust."

Romans 12:17-19 says, "Recompense to no man evil for evil... Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves... for it is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the lord."

This is why, as Christians, we should not take one another to court. We should not think or plan on how we may destroy or damage anyone who may have harmed us.

Jesus Christ, in His famous Sermon on the Mount speaks much on this subject. Matthew 5:44-45 says, "Ye have heard that it hath been said, Thou shalt love they neighbor, and hate thine enemy. But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute your: that ye may be the children of your Father which is heaven."

Men, our sons and daughters need to see us role modeling this kind of love. This is real love.

Be encouraged.

Colin Campbell

Men who are easily angered cannot role model the love. Anger that is not under strict self-control has great destructive potential. There is such a thing called righteous indignation which Jesus Christ Himself manifested when He cleansed the temple and yet He did not sin. Ephesians 4:26 says, "Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath: neither give place to the devil."

Anger is not a sin in itself. It is a sin when it gets out of control. There are many times God's sinless anger is manifested in Scripture.

Children should be role-modeled by fathers that are not easily provoked to anger. Children should not have to tip toe around their father lest the slightest infraction should start an avalanche of anger.

Anger has great potential for both wife abuse and child abuse. This abuse can be both verbal and physical. The truth is that both forms of anger are destructive and not acceptable. Both forms are ungodly and sinful. If a man cannot disciple his anger, no woman or child should be forced to suffer it. The father should seek serious counsel and, if this problem continues, no one should be bound to live with it.

I loathe separation, but I loathe abusive anger more. If you can't control your anger, you should live with it on your own. Why should others suffer?

Be encouraged.

Colin Campbell