Above Rubies Daily Encouragement Blogs

In the post below, WHAT DOES YOUR HUSBAND WANT MOST, some ask the question, “How can we practically show honor to our husbands?” In case you didn’t get time to read the thread, here are some good answers from wives:

* Allow your husband to decide things.
* Ask his advice.
* Thank him for earning money/working hard.
* Praise his good points instead of focusing on the not so good.
* Think of specific things about him that you're thankful for.
* Don't undermine him.
* Cook him his favorite food.
* Talk respectfully about him to others.
* Think of all the good things he does and focus your thoughts on them, then your thoughts will turn into respectful words and actions.
* Stop always telling him your "better way of doing things.”
* Listen without talking. Let him finish talking without interrupting.

One of the most important attitudes we can have in our life is a "returning spirit." Jeremiah 5:3 tells us about the children of Israel who "refused to return" which invoked the judgment of God.
           
I want to have a "returning spirit" in my heart, don’t you? Returning back to God when I grieve the Holy Spirit, returning back to God's plumbline of truth when I get into deception, and returning back to a soft and tender spirit when my heart becomes hard.
         
Not only should I have a "returning spirit" toward the Lord, but also toward my husband--returning to a soft a sweet spirit when I become haughty and independent and returning to a submissive spirit when I would rather do my own thing. One of the secrets of a harmonious marriage is to keep a "returning spirit."
         
 
"The spirit of returning" is the greatest need of the hour--returning to our first love, returning back to God's absolute truth and principles, returning back to the radical lifestyle of the early church, and turning away from our mediocre, middle-of-the-road, complacent, flesh-pampering, and world-loving spirit.
         
God leaves us with an amazing promise in the last verse of the Old Testament, "He shall turn the heart of the fathers to the children, and the heart of the children to their fathers, lest I come and smite the earth with a curse" (Malachi 4:6).
 
The Hebrew word for “turn” is “shuv” and is translated "turn" 80 times and "return" 491 times. God's greatest longing is for a returning back to His heart for family, to see children as He sees them, and to embrace into our families the children He plans for us.
 
Let’s keep returning more and more to God’s ways,

Nancy Campbell

It’s not so much what you say
As the manner in which you say it;
It’s not so much the language you use
As the tone in which you convey it.

As a woman, we long for love and security, but more than anything else, a man longs for RESPECT AND HONOR from his wife. It is a God-given instinct that we as wives need to understand. He will never be truly happy until he has it, but when he does, look out world! He will feel that he can face anything.

I'm sure not preaching to you, because I fail on this one, too. We can passionately love our husband, yet not show the respect and honor he needs. The Amplified Version of Ephesians 5:33 explains it very clearly, “Let the wife see that she respects and reverences her husband (that she notices him, regards him, honors him, prefers him, venerates, and esteems him; and that she defers to him, praises him, and loves and admires him exceedingly).” What a challenge.

To hold you, softy sleeping

So warm against my breast,

Is rich reward that keeps me

Both satisfied and blessed.

So long I waited for you,

Yet nothing could be told

How deeply you are cherished,

How sweet you are to hold.

~ La Leche League News

Kristin Eason, an Above Rubies reader sent in this poem: 
 
The heart reveals itself in words, the truth to all exposed,
Which kingdom you are living for to others is disclosed.
Words of love and unity or words of hate and death
Are spoken in the presence of the One who gave you breath.
 
Each idle word in secret will one day be revealed,
The words you spoke in darkness will no longer be concealed.
Words of accusation against another brother,
Will quench the Holy Spirit when you criticize another.
 
If we hope to be shown mercy, merciful we now must be
For words are seeds we’ll harvest when we reach eternity.
By words we will be justified or we will be condemned,
For they reveal the inward part, the hidden heart within.
 
If the heart is right with God, our words will surely show,
His love and tender mercies from the mouth will overflow.
So keep your heart with diligence, take heed and contemplate,
Take time to reconsider before it is too late.
 
Unruly is the tongue of man before the heart’s reborn,
Submit to God, repent and turn, your sin lament and mourn.
The language made in heaven no tongue alone can learn,
But is put there by the Spirit when the heart from sin will turn.
 
A death to self--the only way to speak this language new,
With God all things are possible, He does what man can’t do.
Open up your mouth to see the health within your soul,
For you will quickly find to Whom you’ve given up control.
 
Light and dark both cannot dwell; one stays and one must leave.
Be sure your sin will find you out for words do not deceive.
 
KRISTIN EASON

Kristin’s children are Emma (16), Rylan (13), Ellie (8), Nathan (4), Elizabeth (1).

The morals of this world are going downhill,

Against God’s Holy Word and His divine will,
No longer black and white, it’s now mushy gray,
God’s eternal absolutes many shun today.

The above words go together. If we are untaught in the ways of God, we will be unstable. This is a challenge to us as mothers. Are we raising our children to be stable or unstable? To be strong and knowledgeable in the things of God or ignorant?

The answer depends on our motivation. Our children don’t become strong in God by hoping it will happen. We must be faithful to implant God’s word into their hearts and mouths—little by little, morning and evening. The great way to do this is to establish family Bible time in your home.

I know you hear me exhorting you about this so many times. Please don’t get tired of me. Did you know that a faithful teacher recaps, repeats, and reminds?

The above Scripture is found in 2 Peter 3:16 which reminds us that the untaught and unstable twist the Scriptures to their own destruction. Peter continues in verses 17, 18: “Ye therefore, beloved . . . beware lest ye also, being led away with the error of the wicked, fall from your own steadfastness. But grow in grace, and in the knowledge of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.”

Isn’t that a great challenge? We can think we are solid and steadfast in the Lord, but unless we keep in the Word and seeking God, we can fall from our own stability! What about our children? Let’s get them to that place of stability in God’s truth. And let’s keep them there, day by day, and constantly feeding them with the anointing and living truth of the Scriptures.

Truly, I am constantly amazed at how little most young people know of the Scriptures, even those who are raised in homeschooling families. They don’t know the Word! Do their parents not read the Word to them morning and evening? Are they not encouraged to have their own daily time in God’s Word also? If they are unlearned and untaught, they will not be stable.

Let’s raise stable children who will stand fast no matter what deception or calamity comes against them.

Be blessed today,

Nancy Campbell

“God, please give me a husband
And children of my own
So I can be fulfilled in life
In setting up a home.
 
I’ll take good care to do it right
There’s nothing I won’t do
This is all I ask in life
Please Lord, make it true.”
 
In His time my prayer was answered
Though I was not aware
For I was caught in worldly things
In anxieties and cares.
 
And when there was a need at home
Where was I? I wasn’t there
No, I was out at work and you see
The need was greater there?
 
Then Jesus came and dwelt within
This wayward heart of mine
And showed me all the areas
That had gone wrong with time.
 
He showed me that my purpose here
Was as a steward for
He’d graciously given me
What I’d asked of Him, plus more.
 
What was I doing out at work?
He said He would provide
All my needs, my heart’s desires
He’d never leave my side.
 
“O thank You Lord for Your great love
That teaches us the way
You’ve set me free from worldly lust
And now there’s joy today.”
 
For at last I am fulfilled
As a mother and a wife
And I’m no longer drawn
To worries, anxieties and strife.
 
You see, I’ve left it all to Him
There’s just no other way
For me to be fulfilled in life
Is to know God’s Word and obey.
 
~ Val Stares, Gold Coast, Australia

The devil rarely changes his tactics. Obviously, he finds the ones he uses are effective. Back in the Bible days, he continually tempted the Israelites to become like the nations around them. He uses the same temptation today. Why are God's people lured to become like the world around them? It happens subtly. Even without trying we become absorbed into our humanist society. We think it is normal when it is totally abnormal according to the plumbline of God's word.

I thought that the Queen of Sheba came to visit Solomon because of his fame, wisdom, and riches. However, I noticed in 1 Kings 10:1 that there was more to her curiosity. Let’s read what it really says: “And when the queen of Sheba heard of the fame of Solomon CONCERNING THE NAME OF THE LORD, she came to prove him with hard questions.”

Her biggest interest was because of the name of the Lord. We notice this again in 2 Chronicles 2:1, 4: “And Solomon determined to build a house FOR THE NAME OF THE LORD.” The name of the Lord was Solomon’s passion.

What is your passion as you build your home? Is it to have the most beautiful décor? Or do you want your home to be a home where the name of the Lord is honored, uplifted, and magnified? In every room. In every life. In the atmosphere.

The name of the Lord is so powerful. All God’s attributes are revealed in His names. May we seek to know His name and acknowledge His name in our home. May our children be in awe of His name. May people around know that our home belongs to the name of the Lord.

Through the name of Jesus, we can defeat the devil, have power over temptation, and receive answers to prayer. We are more than conquerors through His name. His name is a strong tower into which we can run.

Does the fame of His name go out from your home to your neighborhood? Is this your passion? To build a home to honor the name of the Lord?

Blessings to your home today,

Nancy Campbell

Isn’t it a blessing to pray with a friend? Someone who carries the same vision as you? Jesus said in Matthew 18:20: “For where TWO or three are gathered together in my name, there am I in the midst of them.”

Of course, when you are married you are blessed to lay claim to this promise. I think this is one of the most powerful things about marriage. Do you make the most of it? Do you pray with your husband daily? To neglect this latent power is a real tragedy. What great things can happen when husbands and wives pray together. Matthew 18:19 says: “If TWO OF YOU SHALL AGREE ON EARTH as touching any thing that they shall ask, it shall be done for them of my Father which is in heaven.”

I love to pray with my husband each. We love to pray for our children, grandchildren, and great-grandchildren together. We also have prayer together with others at our Family Devotions every morning and evening. And then at our weekly prayer meeting.

But I was also blessed to have prayer partners even before I was married. When I lived in New Zealand, my dear friend, Pam, and I were both school teachers in different cities. We used to get together for all our vacations to seek the Lord and pray. Not many friends love to get together to pray, do they? But that’s what we loved to do more than anything else.

And we still love to do this even though we live on the other side of the world from one another. Whenever I fly back to New Zealand my first port of call is to visit my friend, Pam. She meets me at the airport, we go to her home in Auckland, then straight to her little prayer room, get on our knees, and pray. Oh, what rich times. We pray for our children most of all. Then we pray for the nations. Our friendship of about 57 years is connected through prayer.

Do you have a prayer friend? Well, if you are married, your husband will be your first prayer friend. But it’s good to have other prayer friends too. Ask your friends to pray with you.

Love from Nancy Campbell

Slow down, Mummy, there's no need to rush,

Slow down, Mummy, what is all the fuss?
Slow down, Mummy, make yourself a cup of tea,
Slow down, Mummy, come and spend some time with me.

When a new baby is born and we take this precious life into our arms, we are not only overcome with awe and delight, but the enormity of the task that lies ahead. We are responsible to keep this little life alive. We must nurse, nourish, love, protect, and train this child until they one day leave our home. Even then, we never stop praying for them. Even then, their trials and challenges are still our concerns.

I remember when Serene's oldest son was born. A few days after birth he came down with RSV and we had to rush him to the hospital. As baby Arden was turning blue, Sam, the new father, perplexingly asked, "How do we keep them alive?"

We can confess one thing or the other. We can talk about our problems (which is what we usually tend to do), or we can choose to confess that God is with us.

God gives us a wonderful promise in Isaiah 43:2, "When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and through the rivers, they shall not overflow you., When you walk through the fire, you shall not be burned, nor shall the flame scorch you." I hear many women confess how they are going through deep waters, or going through a fiery trial. The problem is that when we keep talking about our difficulties we end up staying under them.

“God, please give me a husband
And children of my own
So I can be fulfilled in life
In setting up a home.

Recently, we enjoyed the company of a family at our table for supper. During the fellowship, the mother shared a conversation between her teenage son and his brother in his mid-twenties.

“You’ve got to read this book. It tells you what kind of a wife to choose,” encouraged the young brother. He thought it was time he was married!

This is my last post giving you a taste of Above Rubies testimonies 40 years ago. I trust you have been enjoying them.

CONTINUAL MIRACLES!

How thrilled and grateful I was when my young daughter, Lois gave birth to a big bouncing baby boy. She had a perfect pregnancy and an easy natural birth. Little Joshua was my 15th grandchild, so why was it so special?