“I’M DONE!”

Dear ladies, I would like to comment on some of the comments regarding the post below. Just one for this post. I noticed a number of mothers saying, “I’m done!” Meaning of course that they “are done” with having children. I wonder where this statement comes from. I think it is important to check the root of all our attitudes to see if we have picked them up from our humanistic society or if they are really embedded in God’s Word. Do you think we could get to the bottom of it together? As I think about it, I cannot see that it comes from:

1. God’s heart. God’s heart is a heart of blessing. In fact, the very first thing God did after creating Adam and Eve was to bless them. And how did He bless them? By blessing them with the blessing of fruitfulness (Genesis 1:28 and so many other Scriptures). Let’s just read one: “God shall keep unto thee the covenant and the mercy which he sware unto thy fathers: and he will love thee, and bless thee, and multiply thee: he will also bless the fruit of thy womb” (Deuteronomy 7:12-14). How does God show His love, blessing, and mercy upon us? By blessing us with children, and of course many others blessings too. Read again about God’s heart for families in Psalm 127 and 128.

2. God’s Word. You can order the book from our website, BE FRUITFUL AND MULTIPLY to discover all the Scriptures God says in His Word about this subject. To say, “I’m done” is contrary to the Bible that reveals God’s plan for godly children to come into the world. Malachi 2:15 tells us that He looks for godly children from each marriage.

3. Our own femaleness. This refers to the physical way God created us, plus the transcendence of our innate mothering anointing God has put within us. God created us as females with a womb and breasts. They are not just appendages of our body, but for the purpose of embracing and nurturing babies, plus many other blessings. Genesis 49:25 speaks of the “blessings of the breasts, and of the womb.” Notice it doesn’t say “blessing,” but “blessings.” Plural!

Dear mothers, we are blessed with bodies that were created to bring forth children and nurse at our breasts. I would need to write another post regarding all the blessings we receive when we are pregnant and nursing. God gives amazing hormones to the pregnant and nursing mother that are not only for her blessing while she is pregnant or nursing but they affect her positively for life! One of the hormones, estriol, is elevated 1,000 times in a pregnant woman. And did you know that estriol is an anti-aging hormone?

Both prolactin and oxytocyn, prevalent in nursing mothers, are known as the love hormones and the stress-free hormones. STRESS FREE, ladies. Why miss out on these God-given hormones for your blessing? But they also have many more beneficial affects upon the body and the well-being of the mother.

1 Timothy 2:15 tells us that we will be preserved through the bearing and nurturing of children. Science has now caught up with the Bible and there are plentiful studies that show that the more babies a mother has, the less risk she has for female cancers. The longer she nurses babies from her breast, the less incidence of breast cancer.

4. The essence of true Christianity. Dear mothers, I know that it is not always an easy task to bear children and raise children. We face many difficulties and challenges (physically, emotionally, and financially), but this is the case with any nation-impacting career. But the blessings far outweigh any challenges. And every difficulty is waiting to be overcome. It’s not only mothers who have to overcome. Men with responsible careers have to overcome problems daily. Revelation tells us that the rewards go to the “overcomers.”

As I think about this issue, dear mothers, I believe the very root of this phrase is wanting our own way. Or perhaps thinking we know best. Do we really know what’s best? Oh no. Our understanding is so limited whereas God’s understanding is beyond measure (Psalm 147:5). I am constantly challenged to come up to God’s thinking and His ways, rather than bringing God down to my level and putting Him in my little box where I can manage Him. Dear mothers, we cannot manage God. He is unmanageable! He is incomprehensible! His thoughts are higher than our thoughts. His ways our higher than our ways. We have to come up to Him.

Isaiah 40:25 says, “To whom then will ye liken me, or shall I be equal? saith the Holy One.” We dare not bring God down to our level.

And another thought. Isn’t the very foundation of Christianity to daily die to ourselves, our own thoughts, our own ways, and to take up our cross and follow Him? Mark 8:24, 35 has always been a challenge to my mothering all through my life: “Whosoever will come after me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross, and follow me, For whosoever will save his life shall lose it, but whosoever shall lose his life for my sake and the gospel’s, the same shall save it.”

2 Corinthians 5:15 states: “And that he (Jesus) died for all, that they which live should not henceforth live unto themselves, but unto him which died for them, and rose again.”

I understand where many of you are at in your thinking, because I was there too. God had to deal with me. He had to expose my deceptions and show me His ways, and I had to do lots of repenting. Let’s always be open to God leading us ever upward in His path.

In His love,

Nancy Campbell