In my post yesterday a couple of messages in the thread mentioned that sometimes Dad can take the place of Mom at home. I would like to lovingly address this. I believe that we should make all our decisions in the light of future generations. We dare not make any decision just because it seems "good" for the present, for every decision will affect generations to come.
Often it can be very convenient for the father to stay home because the wife can get a better paying job. However, just because she can earn more, does that make it right? God has created different roles for the male and female. He created the women to be the nestbuilder and the nurturer and nourisher of her children. A father can do this to a certain extent, but not with same anointing as the mother. He created the man to be the provider and the Bible tells us that a man who does not provide for his family is worse than an infidel (1 Timothy 5:8).
Of course, there are many husbands who work from home or who have home businesses. This is great and such a blessing to the whole family. However, the father will be doing his business, and as the children grow, maybe incorporating them into it. He will not be taking over the management of the home or the nurturing of the children.
There are some situations where the husband is finding it hard to get work. However, when the wife takes over his role, he will never be forced into the role God intends for him, and he will feel lesser for it. We bless our husband when we embrace our role and don't interfere with his role.
Society today blurs the roles and the differences God created in the man and woman. Both male and female are needed to reveal the image of God and we walk in God's perfect plan when we embrace who God created us to be. It is so easy for all of us to fall into the trap of living by "situational ethics." We do what we think suits us the best and what is most convenient at the time. Situational ethics may work well in the situation, but it may not be the truth.
The truth is not always easy to walk in, but we must do it for the sake of our family and the for the sake of future generations. Marriage and family life is disintegrating all over the nation because we are doing what we think is best for us. How much more will we degenerate with each succeeding generation?
We show to our children, and this includes future generations, God's perfect plan by the way we live. Our children have a right to grow up seeing their mother as the nurturer and nourisher in the home. They have a right to grow up seeing their father being the financial provider of the home. Our children imbibe God's way to live by watching us. God wants our children to see this distinction. It is healthy. And it is for the preservation of family life in this generation and the generations to come.
Isaiah 55:8-9 says, "For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, saith the Lord. For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways, and my thoughts than your thoughts."
Love from Nancy Campbell